Staying Friends with an Ex ($)

Most people think they have a choice about continuing or ending a relationship. Think again.

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Staying Friend with an Ex

“Here’s something that grates on me: people who just got out of a relationship and lament that ‘he/she and I were perfect together.’ Obviously you weren’t. Otherwise, you’d still be together.”
— Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, at https://markmanson.net/how-to-break-up-with-someone

There is little chance that you know what is or is not perfect for you, and there is little chance that your decisions are absolutely right. Perhaps people buy Mark’s book because he’s the kind of person who doesn’t give fuck. It’s a prescription for happy indifference.

Lucy Sarret, a UK journalist who is the relationships editor at Sextrasworld, billed as a magazine about sex and relationships, asks:

“Is it a good idea to stay friends with your ex? What is the potential for growth, future jealousies from next partners, toxicity, boundaries to set, how soon after breakup to be friends, et cetera? Any and all of the above!”

Here is my answer:

Life Accumulates